< The Flaum Souksamlane In Loving memory Foundation, a national non-profit organization

In Loving Memory Foundation (ILMF) needs your input. Valuable information is collected from many sources, which allows us to continually develop and meet the needs of children, their surviving family and community.

Others may learn from the sharing of personal experiences and thoughts, about your parent(s) dying during your childhood. Participating in our survey is a way to share your thoughts and feelings.

ILMF values your opinions regarding our materials, our programs, and our foundation.

Our goal is to create a brochure that gives adults who are caring for children, guidance and tips on how words can help or hurt a child's feelings. Your input will help children, by giving the people around them guidance and tips to communicate to the grieving child. Thank you for your time.

Who passed away:

How old were you when your parent(s) died?
Mother Father

(eg. I was 15 when my mother died and 4 when my father died)

How did they die?

Do you have siblings?

How did your world change?


After your parent(s) died, did anyone say anything that hurt your feelings
or you wish they did not say? If yes, what did they say and why did you not like it?


What could they have said instead, and why?


Did you feel that others were uncomfortable around you?
If so, what did they do to make you feel that way?


Did you have anyone say something that was hurtful and you
wish they knew better?

If you could give a tip to a child who had their mom or dad die,
what would it be ?

If you could share words of wisdom to an adult who will now have to
care for a child that had parent(s) die, what would you say?

Is there anything else you would like to share with us?

Tell us about yourself, what is your occupation?
Did your parent's death impact your choice of occupations in any way?

Did you attend college? If no, please enter "no" and skip to next question.
If yes, where? What degree(s) did you earn? How was your college paid for?

Is there anything else you would like to say?

Optional, but desired, information:

Name:

Current Age:

Address and phone number (with area code):


Parent(s) Name:


Thank you for your time and insight. Once our "tip sheet" is created it will be accessible on this website.

 
‘It is my hope, that the lessons learned from others can provide insight to help future generations of children who will have their mom and dad die. Thank you for your time and insight” – our founder

“One reason I’ve never liked surprises is because in 1957 my first big surprise in life was very negative, my dad died. And that stayed with me.”
[age 8]

“I would hate it when people, at random and for their own curiosity, would ask me questions about my parent’s dying… as if it were a story or about a tv show…this is my life, not a story, why make me relive the pain and grief, for your curiosity, if and when I feel like talking about it, I will – let me enjoy the game, the dinner, the dance… the event I am at.”
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